Fighting Over Money
Whether you remain financially independent for years or dump both of your funds into a big joint account a week after meeting, money is always a reason for a fight. Perhaps one of you is a spender (impulsive, passionate, liberal gift-giver, your credit card weighs heavy with debt) and the other is a saver (tight fisted, guilt-ridden, penny pinching, paper bag lunch packing). Maybe one of you grew up in a household where you were rewarded with money ($100 for an ‘A’, anyone?) or maybe you never got an allowance and resorted to trolling the couch for loose change. Perhaps you agonize for days over an expensive pair of shoes, waiting until you actually dream about them before deciding they’re worth the expense. Maybe you celebrate when your decrepit toaster breaks because this means you can go out and buy the most expensive replacement on the market. (Ex. I ask Josh to buy me a simple egg timer and he in return buys a digital clock with 13 different timer settings). Either way, it’s doubtful you and your spouse are going to see completely eye to eye when you view your finances. I could write a small novella about fighting over funds, but really it comes down to what my Grandma Peggy used to say: “It’s only money.”