You can’t change someone (with a few exceptions):
Perhaps you’ve told yourself: One day he or she will change…haven’t we heard this before? Isn’t this the reason for most relationship failures? To be fair, people can change depending on taste, age, and whim. For example: After nine years Josh will now eat tomatoes. However, he will not, can not, seem to give up his couch sleeping habit. Perhaps in the back of my mind I had always hoped this would change, that one day he would simply go to bed instead of passing out on the sofa at 9pm. I’m realizing now that this may never change, that he is biologically wired to sleep on the couch, and that there is nothing I can truly do about it.